You Are Not Alone
While everyone is posting on social media today, sharing good memories of their father, praising the men in their lives for being good dads, there are many women and children who are either sitting silently, not saying anything, or who are lying about what a good dad they had or have.
They can’t speak up.
They’re sitting in church pews with bruises hidden under their clothing. They’re plastering fake smiles on their faces as they see their abuser get honored by the pastor for being a “good dad”. Maybe theirs is the one standing behind the pulpit.
They’re posting obligatory “Happy Father’s Day” pictures on social media because it’s expected of them.
If they don’t, they’ll pay for it later.
Nobody would believe them anyway. At least that’s what they think. Chances are, they’re right. To the public, their “perfect dad” is a pillar of the community. His public image is spotless. He’s a judge, or a preacher, or a deacon. He’s an officer, or a Sunday school teacher. People hold him in high regard.
They have no clue what goes on behind closed doors.
He justifies his angry outbursts by saying “you shouldn’t have provoked me” or he says “I’m sorry, I lost control of my anger, but it won’t happen again.”
That’s a lie.
He always does it again. He always finds a way to justify or minimize his actions.
Trust me, he didn’t lose control. If his anger were really that out of control, he wouldn’t just hit you at home. He would do it in front of other people as well because he couldn’t help himself. He’d haul off and hit anybody who angered him. He would punch his boss or coworkers in the face at work when he gets mad.
But he doesn’t do that, does he? No. That would ruin his public image, and he can’t let that happen.
He’s not out of control. He is deliberately terrorizing you because he enjoys it. He enjoys the power. He enjoys seeing you tremble in fear.
If he was “out of control”, he wouldn’t just hit you where the bruises don’t show. He knows what he’s doing, and he is doing it on purpose. He knows you won’t do anything about it.
Because when you try to stand up for yourself, it gets worse.
You’ll keep his secret, because if you don’t, he may actually kill you.
So you sit there silently, afraid to speak up, not knowing what to do.
I see you.
And I believe you.
I’ll be your voice until you find your own.
You’re not alone.
This book is a free kindle download. Some of the authors found their voice in this book for the first time ever. They finally spoke up, even if it was anonymously. They wanted you to know you’re not alone.