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'Shine Theory and the Power of Female Friendships' by Laurel Copes

6/16/2018

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Shine Theory and the Power of Female Friendships
By
Laurel Copes

As with most women, female competition has been a part of my life since I was child. I remember vying for a position in the most exclusive clique my elementary school had to offer, running errands for the cool girls and planning ways to get new clothes in case that would give me a leg up over my fellow hopefuls. As I've grown, the lure of clique mentality has diminished, but not the pressure to see the women around me as competition. A girl who seems happier, more beautiful, and more successful than I do is an easy person for me to hate. I look at her and see less in myself. This is especially true knowing that in business, relationships, and friendships she and I will be pitted against one another.

The Shine Theory turns this attitude on its head and encourages women to remember that female friendships are a vital and rewarding part of understanding who you are and what you're worth. After gaining popularity in an article written for The Cut, Shine Theory started circulating social media and evolving as women of all ages and backgrounds grasped onto the idea of being Shine Theory girls. The basic idea is that surrounding yourself with strong and powerful women can enrich your life and inspire you to greatness. If your friends shine, then you will shine. That happy, beautiful, and successful girl you so want to hate is really the girl you need to be friends with. If you've already got a great group of friends, this means celebrating their successes instead of secretly coveting them.

It seems like this should be an easy thing to do, but it is common to feel like you are standing in the shadows of other women when our successes and failures are so easily quantifiable by things such as Instagram likes, a limited amount of jobs, the numbers on a scale, or swipes left and right on dating apps. However, investing in your female friendships and lifting the women around you up is infinitely more rewarding than competing with them for an imagined ideal. There is nothing more powerful than to know that you are surrounded by people who see the best in you and celebrate your achievements with true joy. Helping other women to shine is only going to make you shine too.
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Originally published on The Odyssey Online: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/shine-theory-power-female-friendships
Edited by London Koffler
 
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7/23/2018 05:23:11 am

Friendship is more than liking the Instagram post of your friend. it's about being there for them when they need you the most. Definitely, all of us have our own definition of friendship ands we perceive it differently. Despite all these ideas, we all know that friendship is about loving and being there for your friend when they need you the most. Laurel Copes was able to discuss it here through her book, and I am so excited to read it!

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