Book Description for Book One
Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of "I do" turn into "I do not" along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.
Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You'll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!
Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.
Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask "How did I get here?" This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it's time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.
There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death ... Isn't it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?
MY REVIEW: The authors get 5 stars, the publishing company gets a 1 star. (My review of the publishing company is at the end).
I have been on both sides of divorce – I’ve been divorced and experienced almost all of the topics in this book, and I’m a therapist and have counseled couples and individuals trying to save their marriage, considering divorce, and post-divorce. I can say with certainty that this book has sound information, clinically relevant and accurate information, and I think anyone who has experienced the pain of a divorce can relate. I looked the publisher up and it says it’s a Christian publishing company, but nothing about the book description, title, or cover indicated this. If it had, to be honest, I would’ve most likely passed it up because one more book on the market telling wives to “do their duty” and basically advocating spousal abuse is definitely NOT needed. This book is more clinically relevant, which is why I wanted to review it. Indeed, this book lives up to the title “Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced.”
BOOK DESCRIPTION FOR BOOK 2: Divorced and Scared No More: Practical Advice for the Newly Divorced is the second installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters. Book two shares views on maintaining cordial relationships with ex-spouses, with a focus on children and extended families. Topics readers can look forward to discovering answers to include: attending special events with your ex-spouse., the impact of divorce on children, ways to arrange custody issues, how to handle separate holidays, and handling finances.
MY REVIEW: Again, 5 stars to the authors, 1 to the publisher. Yikes! Such relevant and needed info here! It is indeed practical advice for the newly divorced. An apt name and the interior lives up to it. Topics include accepting the divorce and moving forward, dealing with the realities of the divorce such as finances, child custody, division of property; and health advice for taking care of yourself during this difficult time. I think it’s awesome that the authors focused on the realities that real people have to deal with. This is real life. This is what you go through. How do you handle holidays? Special events that the children have? When the kids graduate? Get married? You need to plan ahead for these things because you certainly don’t need your personal drama with your ex to take away from an event that is supposed to be a happy time for your child and is supposed to be focused on them. I was pleased to see the chapter on social media in this book as well. With everyone taking to social media to air all their dirty laundry, this definitely needed to be addressed, as well as internet security. Your spouse probably knows your passwords and things like that, so if you have an especially vindictive ex, make sure changing all your passwords is the first thing you do to protect yourself. Very nicely done!
ABOUT BOOK 3:
Divorced and Scared No More: Dating After Divorce: From Lemons to Zesty Lemon Sorbet is the third installment of the Divorced and Scared No More series. This book shows readers how to turn the lemons of divorce into an experience of acceptance and renewal, carrying this into dating. In this reading, Tasher gives you tools to help you get back out there and find the love that awaits you. Inside this book, you'll gauge your emotional availability to see if you're ready to accept the fun and excitement that comes with dating. Here you'll learn how to put your ex and baggage behind you to engage in the present moment. Divorced and Scared No More: Dating After Divorce: From Lemons to Zesty Lemon Sorbet shows you where to find love, dating safety and how to set up your profiles on dating sites.
MY REVIEW: 5 stars for the authors, 1 for the publisher. I love this! Absolutely wonderful advice for post-divorce dating! Clinically sound advice on emotionally taking care of yourself after divorce, when it’s the right time to start dating again, warnings about dating for the wrong reasons…all good and needed advice. I don’t think I’ve seen another book out there, though, that combines sound clinical advice with realistic and practical advice of what it is really like to date after a divorce! Dealing with dating sites, getting to experience things again that you may not have during your marriage (like going out dancing), updating your wardrobe, rediscovering yourself in a sexy and confident (and healthy) way. Take it from someone who has been there, done that – this book is the real deal.
REVIEW FOR QUALITY OF BOOK DESIGN: What a pity that three wonderful books ended up being produced in this way. This publishing company is a vanity press, charging authors an arm and a leg for services. I can’t believe the price even for the smallest package they have listed on their site. For what they charge, I would expect a better quality book, but I’ve seen self-published amateur work that was most likely free or cheaply produced that looked better than this. The covers are plain, look like they’re from a template, no design to them at all. There’s nothing to indicate which is book 1, 2, or 3. The author name on the bottom looks like one author, and the only way I figured out that it was two different people was when I looked at the Amazon page. The book cover has “Tasher Tony Haynes” and looks like one name. The spine looks fine, but the back cover is a crowded mess. Way too many words, not pleasing to the eye. The interior is double spaced and looks like research papers usually do rather than professional manuscripts. The content is great. Beautiful, and I think will help a lot of people. But it’s like someone took a drop-dead gorgeous girl and dressed her in a potato sack and sent her to prom. While the authors gave advice for how to successfully navigate dating after a divorce successfully with really good tips and advice, they seem to have fallen into one of the biggest publishing traps out there that many people would say to avoid – the vanity press.
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for free in exchange for a review. I was not required to post a positive review, and all opinions are my own.